Resentment is basically poison that we feed ourselves overtime to kill ourselves emotionally, mentally, spiritually and eventually physically. We think that it is other people's fault when we are resentful towards them, we feel that they are the cause of our resentment, and we want them to change.
The deep anger, frustration, and sense of being helpless when it comes to one's relationship with another create such toxic vibes that they linger for a long time.
Every time there is...
The unconscious agreements we make with the world -- where we agree to say yes to everyone, even at the expense of our own happiness.
The Yes-es we agree to are not even literal. It is not about us uttering the word, yes, it is our action, taking on more at our own expense because we think we should.
Here's a checklist that you might find useful:
I know, the title of this article sounds ironic. Doesn't seem to make sense? Read on...
Most people in so many different ways have not completed their childhood. What do I mean by that? Learning how to parent one's inner child, for most, may never happen. For others, if they have self-awareness, may start to see how important it is to do so so that they are not relying on their partners, friends, people around them to do it for them!
How do these usually manifest?
Here's an example: Needing...
This quote says it all:
Fear is afraid of itself
Which ensures that it never accepts itself
Which ensures that it always survives - Richard Rudd
In our journey of life to transcend fear, one of the biggest mistakes we make is to deny, avoid and run away from fear.
We have been taught that if we do not think about it, or if we avoid it, it will go away. The thing is, it is not going to go away, not as long as most of humanity and mass consciousness is still run by fear...
Have you encountered people who are so focused on you and your faults, you feel as if they are constantly on the lookout for you to fail. It is as if they have made it their life purpose to do so. Or maybe you recognise this as a trait within yourself.
All of us have some of these critical fault-finder traits, but if we are so outer focused, we lose sight of what is truly important.
Why do we do this -- focusing on other people, watching when they will fall, or f**k up, and hoping to...
How often have we heard of stories or know of people in our lives who refuse to grow up emotionally?
The thing is there are few immediate clear signs of someone who is emotionally immature until you know them on a deeper level, and the signs become more obvious.
Of course, the immediate clear signs would be those who easily have emotional outbursts, or they lose their temper easily. Sometimes, people think that these are people with strong personalities when in truth they are just emotionally...
Have you ever heard of this concept of losing in order to win?
This idea of losing in order to win doesn't seem to make sense right? Well, this idea only works if you are able to be bigger than your ego. So what does that entail?
When our ego or lower ego, as I like to call it, is bigger than our true self, than it is hard to allow ourselves to lose. Because the lower ego thinks in terms of winning and losing, and the lower ego keeps scores.
If we are bigger than the lower ego, what this...
I posted something on my FB page recently on loneliness, and it has received a relatively high number of responses.
This is the quote by Carl Jung:
Loneliness does not come from having no people around, but from being unable to communicate the things that seem important to oneself, or from holding certain views which others find inadmissible.
This is true and I do have to agree up to a certain extent. Let me explain.
We all go through different levels of growth and maturity,...
A few people have asked me if I'm no longer offering spiritual services and if I am just doing Emotional Healing work. I AM STILL offering spiritual services, click on this link for services.
The thing is, spiritual growth and development can only happen with Emotional Healing & Mastery, hence, my focus since the beginning of December has been on emotional therapy and coaching. And lots more people, now more than ever need healing and support for the emotional side of things.
Only hurt people hurt people, as the saying goes. People who say hurtful things to you whether intentionally or unintentionally come from a place of pain. BUT, it is also important that we check inwards to see if we have projected our pain onto them.
When I work with my clients, one of the first things we do is to turn inward to empower self i.e. the client. People may have said or done hurtful things to them, but ultimately it is the healing process that is the focus. So likewise, in...