I had an interesting experience recently with a family member that made me reflect on how easily people misunderstand boundaries.

They had said earlier that they would take responsibility for something, and I trusted that they would follow through. But partway through, they turned around and asked me to do some of the tasks instead, even though they knew I already had a lot on my plate. So, I asked a simple, direct question: “Why did you say you would do it, and then ask me to take it on?”

But...

For many people, the idea of walking away from a dysfunctional family, emotionally, mentally, or physically, brings up more guilt than relief. They stay, not from desire, but a deep belief in trying harder. They think they need more forgiveness, understanding, and growth. To them, healing means keeping connections, regardless of cost.

And if that belief is quietly running in the background, no amount of inner work will create the clarity you are seeking. Because you will keep bending over backw...