We all like to think we’ve got it together. “I’m fine,” you tell yourself. “I know how to handle my emotions.” But here’s the uncomfortable truth: most of us don’t.

And it’s not your fault. You don’t know what you don’t know.

What happens when emotions are ignored, misunderstood, or buried? They don’t magically disappear. They sit quietly in the background, building up pressure until something breaks:

• Your body. Chronic stress and unresolved emotions can manifest as illness, fatigue, or mys...

Have you ever found yourself feeling uneasy or even stressed out by certain sounds? Maybe it’s the buzzing of a fluorescent light, the chatter in a crowded room, or the sudden noise of a door slamming. If these experiences sound familiar, you’re not alone. This heightened awareness of sound, known as auditory sensitivity, is something many people experience. And interestingly, it’s not just about your ears—it’s about how your nervous system is wired.

Stephen Porges’ Polyvagal Theory offers some...

Our bodies are like complex machines, with each part playing an important role in keeping us healthy and happy. One of the most important parts of our body, though often overlooked, is the nervous system. This system is like the control centre of our body, affecting not only how we move and function but also how we feel emotionally and mentally. By learning a bit about how the nervous system works, we can better understand why we feel the way we do and how to take care of our emotional and menta...

Experiencing something really tough or frightening can turn someone's world upside down, especially when it comes to handling stress. Trauma can throw off how a person recognizes and deals with stress, often making it difficult for them to understand their body’s signals. This can lead to a person not reacting much at all, or going to the other extreme and reacting with overwhelming anger.

The Disconnection from One's Body

Our bodies have a natural way of coping with stress, like a secret conv...

 Avoidance—a term that often carries a hint of judgement, suggesting a lack of courage or determination. Yet, it's a common response that transcends age, background, and experience. Why do we avoid it? Is it fear, discomfort, or perhaps the allure of a temporary haven? This guide isn't about chastising avoidance but understanding and overcoming it for a more fulfilling life.

 The Myth of Safety in Avoidance

We've all been there. A difficult conversation, a daunting task, or a fear that grips s...

We get caught up, all the time. 

When people around us push for things to move, we feel stressed by the push even if we are on track to hit whatever targets are set for us, so how do we slow down in these kinds of situations?

When we get caught in our loved one's dramas, and we take it all personally, we think it is about us, when it has nothing to do with us. We play into the drama and we hit back without pausing, only to regret it later.

When we get accosted by some salesperson who triggers...

All of us procrastinate. Some of us more than others.

We tend to do better when there is a deadline. So for work, we usually deliver, for important stuff with deadlines where our reputation may be on the line, we deliver.

However, for things that are specifically for our own personal lives -- lose weight, work on personal accounts, file taxes, personal and spiritual growth, clean the home etc, all of these do not have deadlines per se. And so we sweep them under the carpet, and not thi...