Sometimes, the emotions we push aside whirl quietly within us, creating unexpected turmoil. Repressed anger is one such emotion—easy to miss but with a profound impact on our well-being. Recognizing and dealing with this hidden anger is key to a balanced, happier life.

Identifying Repressed Anger

Repressed anger might not make a loud entrance. Instead, it could be the persistent sadness you can't shake off, the sarcasm that's become part of your language, or the discomfort in...

Emotional abuse is often a silent predator, lurking behind actions and words that may seem benign on the surface but have deep, damaging effects on our well-being. Emotional abuse is a sneaky one; it doesn't leave any visible marks, making it hard to spot and address. But don't worry, by understanding these subtle forms of emotional manipulation, we can take better care of our mental health and emotional growth. In this article, we will discuss different types of emotional abuse and how...

Experiencing something really tough or frightening can turn someone's world upside down, especially when it comes to handling stress. Trauma can throw off how a person recognizes and deals with stress, often making it difficult for them to understand their body’s signals. This can lead to a person not reacting much at all, or going to the other extreme and reacting with overwhelming anger.

The Disconnection from One's Body

Our bodies have a natural way of coping with stress, like a...

The journey toward healing from trauma is both profound and complex, demanding a nuanced understanding of its deep impact on our emotional worlds. Bessel Van der Kolk's poignant observations shed light on a common struggle: traumatized individuals may deeply fear the intensity of their emotions due to the potential loss of control they entail. Recognizing and bravely facing this fear is a critical step on the path to recovery.

The Nature of Trauma
Trauma is an insidious presence, often...

The Weight of Dismissal

In the journey of healing, a profound truth often goes unrecognized: the dismissal of our deepest wounds can be as scarring as the trauma itself. This insight, echoing through the realms of emotional and spiritual healing, reminds us that the path to recovery encompasses not only the traumatic events but also the layers of neglect endured thereafter. When our experiences are invalidated and our voices stifled, we face a dual challenge: healing from the event and the...

Growing up in a household where the sound of a raised voice wasn't out of the ordinary might have taught you some complex lessons about anger. Perhaps you learned to identify the subtle signs that an outburst was imminent, or maybe you became an expert at navigating the emotional minefields that littered your home. As a result, you might find yourself unusually attuned to the anger of others now that you're an adult.

But here's the thing: that hyper-awareness can sometimes leave you feeling...

In the world of relationships, a common dance between partners is the interplay of completeness and incompleteness. This dynamic, while common, can bring forth vulnerabilities and growth opportunities. The saying, “the most agonising thing for people who do not feel complete within themselves is to be in relationships with people who feel complete,” echoes this sentiment. Let's explore this intricate dance.

Navigating Personal Incompleteness

Individuals grappling with personal...

I notice this about people A LOT: people do things, say things, don't say certain things, or don't do certain things, TO BE NICE. 

While I understand that there is always a time and place to say things or do things BUT to betray self to appear nice to others and to be liked is one of the most TOXIC things to do to SELF.

It is ok not to be nice. We are not obligated in any way to be nice just because:

• we fear being judged
• we want others to like us
• we want to let people think we are a...

The unconscious agreements we make with the world -- where we agree to say yes to everyone, even at the expense of our own happiness. 

The Yes-es we agree to are not even literal. It is not about us uttering the word, yes, it is our action, taking on more at our own expense because we think we should. 

Here's a checklist that you might find useful:

• Do you say yes to your loved ones to keep the peace?
• Do you say yes to more work in your office because you feel...

How often have we heard of stories or know of people in our lives who refuse to grow up emotionally?

The thing is there are few immediate clear signs of someone who is emotionally immature until you know them on a deeper level, and the signs become more obvious.

Of course, the immediate clear signs would be those who easily have emotional outbursts, or they lose their temper easily. Sometimes, people think that these are people with strong personalities when in truth they are just emotionally...