I notice this about people A LOT: people do things, say things, don't say certain things, or don't do certain things, TO BE NICE.
While I understand that there is always a time and place to say things or do things BUT to betray self to appear nice to others and to be liked is one of the most TOXIC things to do to SELF.
It is ok not to be nice. We are not obligated in any way to be nice just because:
The unconscious agreements we make with the world -- where we agree to say yes to everyone, even at the expense of our own happiness.
The Yes-es we agree to are not even literal. It is not about us uttering the word, yes, it is our action, taking on more at our own expense because we think we should.
Here's a checklist that you might find useful:
How often have we heard of stories or know of people in our lives who refuse to grow up emotionally?
The thing is there are few immediate clear signs of someone who is emotionally immature until you know them on a deeper level, and the signs become more obvious.
Of course, the immediate clear signs would be those who easily have emotional outbursts, or they lose their temper easily. Sometimes, people think that these are people with strong personalities when in truth they are just emotionally...
In my last blog article, I talked about Compassion as a superpower, so what exactly do I mean?
For most people, when we mention Compassion, they immediately think of the archetypal energies of religious figures such as Mother Mary or Kuan Yin, and usually, compassion is associated with female and mother figures. This can be a problem if as a male, you find that you have not gotten in touch with your own yin energies and so you might tend to see compassion as a form of weakness. Or if you're a...
The very first thing we must get right within our own mindsets when we are suffering is that it is not personal. I know, this sounds oxymoronic, because the experience of suffering is really so personal!
We feel so attacked by life, by people, by circumstances and everything around us.
Why do I say not to take it personally? We suffer to acknowledge several things -- to acknowledge our humane-ness with the rest of the human race, and to develop the ultimate superpower of...
A few people have asked me if I'm no longer offering spiritual services and if I am just doing Emotional Healing work. I AM STILL offering spiritual services, click on this link for services.
The thing is, spiritual growth and development can only happen with Emotional Healing & Mastery, hence, my focus since the beginning of December has been on emotional therapy and coaching. And lots more people, now more than ever need healing and support for the emotional side of things.
Only hurt people hurt people, as the saying goes. People who say hurtful things to you whether intentionally or unintentionally come from a place of pain. BUT, it is also important that we check inwards to see if we have projected our pain onto them.
When I work with my clients, one of the first things we do is to turn inward to empower self i.e. the client. People may have said or done hurtful things to them, but ultimately it is the healing process that is the focus. So likewise, in...
As we come to the end of 2020, no one has escaped from the many upside downs this year -- from our business, career, personal lives as well as our spiritual lives. What is pertinent is that most of us have found ourselves confronting things we have swept aside, not wanting to face them, perhaps for too long. People on personal development and/or spiritual paths are now at a point where we know we cannot go further without some form of looking back at our emotional baggage.
This is affecting...
On my Instagram, I posted a super short version of these steps, so here’s the complete version:
With the festive season just around the corner, it is also the time of the year that more people get emotionally triggered by their loved ones. Being triggered is not necessarily a bad thing if we look at it from a positive perspective.
All of these triggerings help us to become more aware of our hidden and unresolved emotional patterns. And if we have the right attitude about it, we can ask...
Getting the right perception of self has to be one of the most difficult things to achieve because it requires a high level of self-awareness.
Most people are still working in progress or have not even started in the area of self-awareness.
People you meet or even yourself could be either thinking that they/you are better at something than they/you actually are. Or thinking that they/you are not as good as they/you are when in truth they/you are meeting the standards!
This can be tricky for...