Why Self-Awareness Alone Will Not Heal You—and What Real Integration Looks Like
A companion to Myth vs. Fact: Emotional Intelligence and Spiritual Intelligence

You do not need more insight. You already have it. You know the language. You can trace your wounds to childhood, describe your attachment style, name your copying mechanisms, and quote every second sentence from the latest trauma book. 

But there is a quiet tension beneath all that knowing, a sense that, somehow something still has not...

Ever feel like you're holding it together so well that no one suspects anything's wrong? Like you're calm, composed, even unbothered—but only on the outside? You’re the person people admire for staying grounded during chaos. But here’s the truth:

Your calm might not be calm at all. It might be freeze.

The Calm That Wasn’t Chosen

The freeze response is a lesser-discussed trauma survival state. While most people are familiar with fight or flight, freeze is what happens when the body registers t...

Many people turn to spiritual practices in times of emotional pain, hoping to find healing and peace. It’s a natural response—after all, spirituality offers comfort and connection to something greater than ourselves.

But does spiritual practice alone heal emotional wounds? Can meditation, prayer, chanting, or other sacred rituals replace the hard work of emotional healing?

This question often arises from the confusion between emotional intelligence (EQ) and spiritual intelligence (SQ). While ...