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I learned this from my Jungian analyst mentor. If you do not know how to bear your pain, you will act it out. I see this constantly, in how people interact with the people around them, in what they say, in how they show up, in how they do not show up. You can usually tell when someone has not healed. It becomes obvious even when they do not say it. But you cannot hide unprocessed pain.

So what does it actually mean to bear your pain rather than to act it out? It does not mean gritting your teet...

I was having dinner outdoors sometime in Dec last year - surrounded by trees and the sound of nature.

Out of nowhere, a cicada landed on me. It didn’t fly off immediately. It simply stayed for a while, still and unbothered. No panic, no confusion. Just presence.

And in that moment, I felt like I’d been handed a quiet message: not everything that matters is visible. Not every transformation needs an audience.

Cicadas aren’t showy. They spend most of their lives underground, unseen, growing. In...