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There is an old observation that keeps circulating on social media. This particular version is the one I am working with, and the quote says: "To offend a strong man, tell him a lie." To offend a weak man, tell him the truth.

I find this very interesting, and I have observed it a lot in my work, particularly in my interactions with people. So this quote really is not talking about strength. It is about a person's identity, and how people are unconsciously managing their identity or their image,...

Why Some People Cannot Get To The Point

We all know someone who goes around in circles trying to explain what they want to say. They will give you a backstory and context, and then a lot of disclaimers, which makes them sound more and more desperate and sometimes even less confident as they go. The more they say, the less sure of themselves they become, and at the end of it, they are just rambling.

Now this is usually a sign that they are trying desperately to avoid being misunderstood. When a...

I had an interesting experience recently with a family member that made me reflect on how easily people misunderstand boundaries.

They had said earlier that they would take responsibility for something, and I trusted that they would follow through. But partway through, they turned around and asked me to do some of the tasks instead, even though they knew I already had a lot on my plate. So, I asked a simple, direct question: “Why did you say you would do it, and then ask me to take it on?”

But...