The very first thing we must get right within our own mindsets when we are suffering is that it is not personal. I know, this sounds oxymoronic, because the experience of suffering is really so personal!

We feel so attacked by life, by people, by circumstances and everything around us. 

Why do I say not to take it personally? We suffer to acknowledge several things -- to acknowledge our humane-ness with the rest of the human race, and to develop the ultimate superpower of...

 As promised last week, in this sharing, we are going to talk about physical, emotional, mental and spiritual boundaries. 

Let me just break them down in parts so that you can see and relate with some general examples I share. 

Physical boundaries:

Ah, we see this so clearly these days with social distancing. It is so much easier to practice this, for some people, especially when they have not been able to understand or practice physical boundaries with others.

Physical...

Do you struggle with establishing boundaries with others? If you do, then you might find yourself in situations you don't want to be in, even though it wasn't so at the beginning. 

The struggles usually become real, because of our inability to say No, and we feel bad saying No, whether this is to strangers, our friends, colleagues or even family members. 

Most people feel bad saying No to their family and friends because there is a sense of obligation. Now, if you don't know where...

A few people have asked me if I'm no longer offering spiritual services and if I am just doing Emotional Healing work. I AM STILL offering spiritual services, click on this link for services.

The thing is, spiritual growth and development can only happen with Emotional Healing & Mastery, hence, my focus since the beginning of December has been on emotional therapy and coaching. And lots more people, now more than ever need healing and support for the emotional side of things.

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Only hurt people hurt people, as the saying goes. People who say hurtful things to you whether intentionally or unintentionally come from a place of pain. BUT, it is also important that we check inwards to see if we have projected our pain onto them.

When I work with my clients, one of the first things we do is to turn inward to empower self i.e. the client. People may have said or done hurtful things to them, but ultimately it is the healing process that is the focus.  So likewise, in...

There was a Twitter exchange between Stephen King and a tweeter, which goes something like:

Stephen King: No, Coronavirus is NOT like THE STAND. It's not anywhere near as serious. It's eminently survivable. Keep calm and take all reasonable precautions.

Someone replied: Have you read the book?!

(Those who have heard of The Stand would probably know it was written by Stephen King).

As with all social media platforms, sometimes you get the good stuff, but it is also a place where you can...

As we come to the end of 2020, no one has escaped from the many upside downs this year -- from our business, career, personal lives as well as our spiritual lives. What is pertinent is that most of us have found ourselves confronting things we have swept aside, not wanting to face them, perhaps for too long. People on personal development and/or spiritual paths are now at a point where we know we cannot go further without some form of looking back at our emotional baggage.

This is affecting...

We have all heard of spiritual bypassing - where one uses one's spiritual path or journey to run away from life's real problems, and spiritualising everything by suppressing, denying issues that are needed to be addressed for self-healing.

There is also the more common phenomena, which I call, EMOTIONAL BYPASSING. This happens with people who have no wish to acknowledge any of their emotional pain, baggage, issues, drama etc. (and this not only pertains to spiritual people, but also to...

On my Instagram, I posted a super short version of these steps, so here’s the complete version:

With the festive season just around the corner, it is also the time of the year that more people get emotionally triggered by their loved ones. Being triggered is not necessarily a bad thing if we look at it from a positive perspective.

All of these triggerings help us to become more aware of our hidden and unresolved emotional patterns. And if we have the right attitude about it, we can ask...

Overthinking. Many of us have indulged in this every once in a while. For some of us, more than others.

Overthinking has been known to be associated with post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), anxiety and depression. And sometimes, we can go on for decades overthinking as a habit, if it has not been brought to our attention that it is actually not good for our health.

We take for granted that it is a normal thing to do. Think, think, think. And to overdo it without restraint, like an...