When someone says they are emotionally exhausted, most people assume they are just tired. The common suggestions follow: get more sleep, take a break, go for a massage, maybe take up yoga.

But emotional exhaustion has little to do with rest. It is not about needing more time off. It is about the invisible emotional labour you have been carrying for years. For some, it has been a lifetime of staying composed, agreeable, and helpful, even when they were running on empty.

Emotional Vigilance Bec...

Weaponised incompetence happens when someone pretends they can’t handle a task—or does it so poorly that someone else has to step in and take over. Whether it’s a friend dodging responsibility, a family member refusing to share household chores, or a colleague dumping extra work on the team, this behaviour creates an unfair balance. Over time, it breeds resentment, exhaustion, and frustration for the person picking up the slack. 

The problem? It’s so normalised that many don’t even recognise it...