What if there are people we do not like whom we meet daily, they could be our bosses or people we work with. Here's something to ponder upon: if we do not like a person, someone we consider an acquaintance or a work colleague, it just means that we have taken the connection we have little too personally!
Think about it, if we were there to work, and if we take things too personally and allow our emotions to get in the way, we have allowed our emotions to make decisions for us. The trick in dealing with this is not to get emotionally attached to outcomes or emotionally attached to how this person should be behaving towards you.
Now, if this person is not well-liked by EVERYONE, let's ask ourselves why. Perhaps this person is doing something right. Possible? If this person is doing something right for the business or organization and we just do not like his/her attitude, then we have to ask ourselves what exactly are we dealing with here: our own blind perception or the person?
No matter what the answer is to that question, we need to know that at the end of the day taking care of our own sanity is crucial. If we put too much energy and get too emotional into these sort of connections then as human beings we are not being energy efficient! We are not going to be able to use our energies more creatively elsewhere.
What if it is a social situation? There are all kinds of bullying that happen in the adult world too. I am not talking about the obvious abuse or ill-treatment that one adult inflicts upon another. I am referring to the more subtle bullying that happens in social settings, for eg. someone snubbing another they perceive as more lowly than them because of how they dress, behave or speak. This sort of bullying shows that the person is insecure, to begin with, and he/she needs to play a one-up game in their own minds to feel better about themselves. What if we got caught in a situation like this? When we get snubbed by others just for breathing? This is easily done: just walk away. We are not obligated to stay there to continue to be spoken to disrespectfully, or be treated like a low life. Just walk away.
Here is a mental-emotional checklist of to-dos to assist you. They will help you to get a handle of yourself at the moment.
Now perhaps this person in the workplace you do not like acts in a very nasty manner towards you, then the smart thing to do is to stay away from him/her if possible. Sometimes something as drastic as leaving for good may be the answer. We do not have to stay in a situation if we are put in a position of danger or abuse in any manner.
Maybe sometimes we wish that things could be simpler, like how things were like when we were kids when we could easily un-friend someone with no issue whatsoever. In the more complicated adult world, sometimes unfriending someone happens only on Facebook! And we still need to continue to work with the person and keep everything professional!
We are always told NOT TO BURN OUR BRIDGES, there is certainly wisdom in these words.
© 2018, 2019 Shamala Tan
Shamala Tan is an author, spiritual entrepreneur and healer. Her work focuses on transforming the lives of others on the spiritual, emotional, mental and earthly level.
One of her success stories as an author is to being featured alongside New York’s bestsellers Sonia Choquette, Robert Allen, Arielle Ford, Marci Shimoff as well as Christine Kloser in the book Pebbles In The Pond.
Shamala’s clients include small business owners, holistic practitioners as well as those seeking to find more significant meaning and value in life. Shamala offers laser coaching to her clients on a one-to-one basis or in a group environment, offline as well as online.