One of the many things that people do not tell us enough as we're growing up is that WE WILL STRUGGLE. Struggling is a part of life, but they do pass.
Sometimes our struggles are small, and sometimes extremely devastating. Sometimes the struggles are long term, other times they are short terms. We MUST know this, that in our struggles we are learning to understand the size of our cocoon, and maybe we are trying to get out of the cocoon at various stages of our lives, but we will struggle.
Far too many people think that they are the only people struggling, they think that other people are lucky or have it good. And they feel victimised by whatever they are going through, and they are waiting for someone to come save them. (Maybe the superhero comic books didn't do us any favours.) We think we are the only ones struggling because we have not been taught or shown that in all our struggles, there is strength and it is through our struggles we understand who we are.
In our growing up years maybe our parents don't want to worry us and so they do not tell us the reality of life. They make life sound and look easy. Maybe parents are afraid to break the spirit of their children, or they do not trust their children enough.
Or parents make life such a struggle with their constant complaints, they do not show us that there is much to be gained through our struggles and the journey of life can be beautiful even with the struggles. When we grow up in an environment where all we experience are struggles, we think that other people have it better and that we are the unlucky ones.
So what do we need to understand ourselves before we can effectively mentor our future generations along?
So as we go out there to inspire our children or people we care about, we let them know it is ok to struggle, and that it is a part of life.
Struggles are real, they are internal or external, and we have to be ok with them.
©2020 Shamala Tan
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Shamala Tan is an author, spiritual entrepreneur and healer. Her work focuses on transforming the lives of others on the spiritual, emotional, mental and earthly level.
One of her success stories as an author is to being featured alongside New York’s bestsellers Sonia Choquette, Robert Allen, Arielle Ford, Marci Shimoff as well as Christine Kloser in the book Pebbles In The Pond.
Shamala’s clients include small business owners, holistic practitioners as well as those seeking to find more significant meaning and value in life. Shamala offers laser coaching to her clients on a one-to-one basis or in a group environment, offline as well as online.